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There’s nothing wrong with not dating someone for shallow standards; you just have to be consistent about it. Had the girl in this story refused to date the author forever and ever, never once even fathoming the idea of a date with someone under 6’0″, then we’d be fine. But she fucked up. She gained weight, realized that the boys weren’t coming to her yard for milkshakes anymore and decided to lower her standards.
THAT’S fucked up. THAT’S insulting. THAT’S not fair to the author of our story, who remained consistently attractive (yet short) while she got uglier and only then decided they were on the same level. At least in the end Redditor smittypeg81 gave her what was coming to her:
During college I worked at a restaurant with a fairly large staff. (Between 60-80 servers and 20 hostess on any given season) I was friends with pretty much everyone and there was always a group of us hanging out after each shift (Late night house parties etc). Because of that staff dating was common. I never really dove into the staff dating pool but there was one particular girl I was fond of at the time.
We got along flawlessly and we were hanging out all the time during work and afterwards at parties. Rumor spread that we were secretly dating. I tried asking her out a few times but she always turned me down. Never giving a reason. I wasn’t salty about it. Just figured I wasn’t her type or she wasn’t attracted to me. No big deal, she was still cool to hang out with.
About a year goes by and finally a few of my female coworkers discovers the reason why this girl kept turning me down. The big mystery……I was too short. Nothing else that was the only thing holding her back. The news spread quickly. Not going to lie, it made me bitter but I held my tongue for almost another year.
Over that period she had gone off to school. We still kept in touch and I stayed friendly with her because she was still picking up shifts when she was back in town during the holidays or spring/summer breaks. Anyways college life must have hit her hard. She packed on the freshman 15 and a little more. I wouldn’t say she got fat, maybe chubby. She went from say 110 pounds to 135.This is when I started noticing her attitude towards dating me had changed. Her friends were dropping hints like crazy that I should ask her out again. Despite the fact of her shallow reasoning beforehand. This is where I hit my tipping point and was pissed off to my core.
It all came to a boiling point one fateful night after work. We were both liquored up and she kept pushing me for an answer on why I hadn’t asked her out yet. So I gave it… Out loud… in front of all the coworkers at the party. (40+ people)
“I tried asking you out for a year and you turned me down every time. NEEVVVERR giving me a reason why.”
“Now I’m date-able?!
“The ONLY reason you wouldn’t go out with me before was because I was too short.
“Nothing has changed minus you packing on a few LBs and your self-esteem has dropped.
“You were shallow, so here’s my reason!
“Because I don’t date FAT CHICKS!”75% of the female staff stopped speaking to me after that as I was crowned the biggest asshole in the world. However 100% of the guys agreed it was a double standard and justice was served. To be honest, it was her shallow attitude that hit me the most and I wanted her to know what that felt like. It’s been over 10 years now and looking back I sometimes ask myself if I should have said it and my answers hasn’t changed yet. (Yes…. yes I would)
Add on: She openly told a group of about 20 female co-workers. Not sure what she thought was going to happen. Word spread and yes I was publicly humiliated as it because a common joke at work. I bit my tongue and take all of it for a year. My issue was her changing her mind like I’m some 2nd place prize. Her friends assumed I wasn’t interest anymore because of her weight gain and throw it in my face all the time that she was still the same person. I never said a word about her weight before that night. Label me asshole, then an asshole I will be.
[Via Reddit]
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